So someone spoke cruelly or unfairly of you behind your back or taunted you to your face, eh?

Well, here is all the advice I can give you.

Ever watch "Kung-Fu"?
I was always impressed by the Strong and Quiet stance. I sometimes do that "what would so-and-so do in this position" thing, except I imagine a Buddhist Monk.
You see, fear is just the tool of evil it is portrayed to be in the movies, like Star Wars, or Dune, etc. It comes in all kinds of forms and can drive you to do all kinds of things. In regards to taking the Strong & Quiet stance, allot of people are afraid of looking weak, and as a result of that you get the social perpetuation of the macho chauvinistic stance for example. Basically if you take any social phenomenon and you will find the fear of some pier-group behind it. So I, at a young age seeing through the tyranny of pier-groups and the pressure to conform, with a mind free of fear, found this philosophy, and its all the advice I have to give you in these matters.

It is always better in the face of an attack to remain calm. I know the depths of cruelty that the majority of "un-enlightened" men can reach. Of course there is no excuse for a husband to ever assault his wife, but even in that, if you choose to live in a world of peace, then there is an acceptable way to deal with that, and vigilante retribution is not it. Now if you are perhaps the type that believes in Anarchy for whatever reason, then I am truly sorry, and this is not for you.

Otherwise, consider this example:
There is an appropriate response to all attacks that citizens of a world that desire peace and prosperity can embrace. And I can tell you as someone that grew up feeling a great deal of abuse in this fashion, if I had developed the philosophy of responding "in-kind," I would have developed into the kind of individual that you would not have liked at all, and would have been a plague upon the earth. So try to understand the dichotomy between the knowledge that such people are bad, and embracing the philosophy that contributed to them becoming that way.

We all know its hard to fully walk in another persons shoes, but I have a unique childhood history that gives me a unique insight into this type of situation. Don’t give a bully the satisfaction. Rise above it and reaffirm that you want a world that works for peace, and not hatred and the escalation of violence. You may sound mature in your response, but you if salted it with a generous helping of rage as it may be hard to resist, know that a Cherry Pie sprinkled with poison is still just as deadly.

What I’m saying is this:
Imagine two futures.
One where it all worked out, and the appropriate were sorry, and bonds of friendship were strengthened.
One where all ties are broken, and the memories of hatred and pain were burned into permanence.
Which would would you choose to live in, and what would you do to see it come to be? Know then that there are people in this world who have faced that very question, and sacrificed their very lives for the sake of the latter. Shurely we as the 1 in 3000 people on the planet that even have indoor plumbing, can find a way to overcome this kind of socially eliete hating (even when we’re the unjust victim), and if everyone or even most of us privileged cannot, at least take pride in not being one of them.

=^)
That is All.